Laxmi Sargara baby bride
When she learned of it, she says, "I was unhappy about the marriage. I told my parents who did not agree with me, then I sought help. Now I am mentally relaxed and my family members are also with me." That's a relief, indeed. Help came from a social worker in Jodhpur named Kriti Bharti, who runs the Sarathi Trust, which lobbies for children's rights. Bharti helped Sargara negotiate with Rakesh and his family and persuade them that the union was unfair. Rakesh at first objected to ending the marriage, but after he realized Sargara was so fiercely opposed to it, he changed his mind. The marriage was annulled with a joint legal document, which should ensure that Sargara doesn't have any problems with it in the future. Bharti thinks Sargara's bold move sets an excellent example of what is possible: "It is the first example we know of a couple wed in childhood wanting the marriage to be annulled, and we hope that others take inspiration from it." Other activists hope it will be the first step in changing the entire culture of child marriage.
Laxmi Sargara was 1 year old when she was married to a 3-year-old boy named Rakesh in the desert state of Rajasthan in northwestern India, the French news agency said. Their families decided that when they grew up they would live together and have children.
Child marriages, outlawed in India in 1929, are still common in many parts of the country, especially in rural and poorer communities, AFP said.
A Unicef report says 47 percent of married women in India wed before age 18. Unicef also says 40 percent of the world's child marriages take place in India. "I was unhappy about the marriage,” Sargara, now 18, told AFP. “I told my parents who did not agree with me, then I sought help. Now I am mentally relaxed and my family members are also with me."Girls married off in infancy often remain in their parents' homes until they reach puberty and then are taken amid great celebrations to their husbands’ families, AFP said.
When Sargara just days ago discovered that she was married and would be sent to her husband’s home this week, she sought advice from social worker Kriti Bharti, who runs the children’s rights group Sarathi Trust, AFP said.
Bharti negotiated with Rakesh, the groom, who only uses one name, and both families to persuade them that the marriage was unfair, AFP reported.
"It is the first example we know of a couple wed in childhood wanting the marriage to be annulled, and we hope that others take inspiration from it," Bharti told AFP.
Rakesh, an earth-mover driver, at first wanted to press ahead with the relationship but was convinced by Sargara’s fierce opposition that the marriage should be revoked, Bharti said.
These statistics might seem shocking to some around the globe. However, in poor rural areas of India, families rely on these unions to provide financial stability. Families use arranged marriage as a means of alleviating having to feed and care for children long-term.The girls are expected to play the role of obedient wife and daughter-in-law, and in some instances, are beaten into submission by members of their new family," reported Yahoo! Shine.
Just mere days ago, Laxmi Sargara was told that she had to move in with the man she was promised to almost two decades ago by April 24. Girls married off as babies typically live with their parents until they reach puberty and then move out to live with their arranged husbands, reported the Daily Mail.
"I was unhappy about the marriage. I told my parents who did not agree with me, then I sought help," Sargara told AFP. "Now I am mentally relaxed and my family members are also with me."
With the aid of a social worker in Jodhpur who advocates on behalf of children's rights through the organization Sarathi Trust, they planned an annulment. Rakesh took some convincing but he eventually conceded, according to Yahoo! Shine.
This child bride's bold move to have her marriage annulled could act as encouragement for other women in similar situations.
"It is the first example we know of a couple wed in childhood wanting the marriage to be annulled, and we hope that others take inspiration from it," Kriti Bharti, the social worker who orchestrated the annulment, told AFP.
Yahoo! Shine detailed the risks Sargara is taking in getting her marriage annulled. In India, opponents of arranged child marriages can face threats of gang rape, beatings and maiming. In 2009, a 13-year-old refused to wed her arranged husband and was denied food for two weeks, according to an ABC News report.
Child marriage is not only a problem in India, but also in countries around the world. From Sub-Saharan Africa and the Middle East to South Asia and even in some parts of the U.S., underage children are being forced into marriages.
"It's been shown that where child marriage is in vogue, six of the eight millennium development goals, you can forget about," Archbishop Desmond Tutu told Reuters, regarding how the growth of India is being slowed by discriminatory practices against women in the country.
"I think that India is poised to become a very significant player but, that role would be greatly, greatly enhanced, when women are given their proper place."
The media has shed more light on the suppression of women's rights in India recently.
In December, ABC News' Elizabeth Vargas traveled to the country to uncover what is known as "India's deadly secret." Vargas went on shocking information that one million girls are systematically killed every year because of the gender preference for boys, a term coined "gendercide." An estimated 40 million girls have gone "missing" in India, which has a total population of 1.1 billion as of 2010. Approximately 50,000 female fetuses are aborted every month.
Vargas spoke with Ruchira Gupta, a women's rights activist, who said, "It's an obliteration of a whole class, race, of human beings. It's half the population of India... We put very little value to girls or to women. So they are always in danger, from birth to death. If they are born, then they might be murdered just because they are girls."
The main reason for the gendercide is money. Families must pay expensive dowries to marry off daughters. When a boy is born, he will bring in the money; when a girl is born she is a steep expenditure. This is the main reason families promote abortion of daughters.
Dowery expenses increase year after year. Once a girl weds, her family is required to pay this fee. If they do not, the girl is "often beaten, tortured, even burned to death. And while dowries have been illegal for decades, the law is often ignored."